The Spence's We Three

Languages of Love

I was watching television late the other night (as I tend to have to with two small children), and saw a man talking about the languages of love in a seminar type setting. His message was like a huge light bulb going off. He said there are three types of languages of love.....tell me, show me, and touch me. This seem pretty obvious, but I had never thought of it before.

The tell me's are people who are lifted up by hearing praise and the words "I Love YOU".

The show me's are people who really feel loved by the things that people do for them to show their love.

The touch me's are people who love to be hugged, kissed, patted on the back, etc...

After hearing him speak about this I realized a few things about myself and the people around me. I am not really a tell me kind of person, I like to hear I love you (especially from my children when it is not prompted), but it really means a whole lot more when the kids clean up without having to be asked. Not just because it saves me from having to get on them so much, but it makes me feel like they love me and want me to be happy. It makes me feel great when I wake up to a hot pot of coffee, because I know that behind the jokes of "I don't want you to be a grouch", there is a genuine show of love. I AM A SHOW ME. My husband is a tell me, or at least I think he is, maybe I will learn more about him through this.

So my question for today is do we really take the time to find out what our language of love is? Do we think about the people we care about, and how they may need to be loved in a different way than we do, or think they do.

Ok, don't forget to spill the beans and "tell me" what your language of love is so that I can love you better too.

Kristy

posted by We Three Spences @ 10:20 PM